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Category: Pardon My Rant

The Wife Follower

Posted on April 4, 2025April 30, 2025 by Hilarey

the husband leader | the wife follower I’m realizing that questioning the husband-leader-dynamic is part of the larger debate about women in the church. (I’m usually late to the circus.) And although I wish I had gone to a seminary-type college when I was young, so I already knew what was going on, I was…

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Take Luck

Posted on November 1, 2024April 18, 2025 by Hilarey

Someone who is a Christian, but doesn’t read the Bible, is really susceptible to the weird tangents of Christian religion. Taking someone else’s word for what the scriptures say inevitably lays the groundwork for future deconstruction. This is what children do: accept the world through the lens and experience of those over them. This is not what a maturing Christian does.

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Sonship and Citizenship

Posted on October 11, 2024October 12, 2024 by Hilarey

I remember standing on the deck of a beautiful home in Tahoe for a home group gathering. The leader responded to my compliment about the view, his home, and yard with, “Where God guides, he provides.” It’s so, so true. God directs us. He opens and closes doors. All good things come down from the…

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Just before you came in…

Posted on May 3, 2024May 1, 2024 by Hilarey

Years ago, I was at a home group where everyone discussed works versus faith. We’re saved by grace through faith, but the idea of this necessary component of works comes from James, who says, “I will show you my faith by my works.” It shows up in other places of scripture as well, indicating that…

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Before You Receive

Posted on December 15, 2023November 28, 2023 by Hilarey

It’s hard to be vulnerable enough to receive with thankfulness. Don’t make these assumptions when you receive gifts.

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The Husband Leader

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The Wife Follower

The Wife Follower

the husband leader | the wife follower I’m realizing that questioning the husband-leader-dynamic is part of the larger debate about women in the church. (I’m usually late to the circus.) And...

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So Many Voices

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The same tradition can bring life to one household and oppression to another. Even in the same house, a rule can be life giving or demeaning....

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Your Redemption Draws Near

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Children of the Wilderness

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Who, what, where, when, why the hell?

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The Ordination of Humankind

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Just before you came in...

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